Your piece is bigger than mine!

It's hard to divide a pie exactly.. And when parents try to do so, they inevitably fail. Their children will complain, "It's not fair!" whenever they perceive so-called injustice to themselves. This perception breeds competition that can permeate all of a child's relationships. He will compete for the best team, she for the best seat in class; There are strategies to minimize competition, but most parents shy away from them. They involve a change in our own perspective, one which recognizes the hierarchy of the family and learning that "unfair is fair."